Life Unmoored

Reflections on thriving in uncertainty.
You Don't Need A Purpose.

You Don't Need A Purpose.

Inspiration and apathy. There’s such a fine line between the two. One day the world is yours. The next, all is lost. Sometimes it’s not a matter of days but hours, even minutes. This is where the slips happen. Blowing off a workout. Ordering fries instead of a salad. A bottle of wine instead of a glass. And here’s the thing: inertia doesn’t give a shit. It will take you to the top of the mountain or straight to the bottom depending on whichever way you’re heading. Which is why you need to stop it before it gains steam. It’s okay to have a bad day. To hit snooze and miss a morning run. To eat a burger with your kid after her basketball game. To raise a few glasses when sharing time with good friends. Whatever you do, don’t punish yourself for the occasional lapse—especially when you’re in the moment. That’s madness: wanting more and more of what you despise. And then hating yourself for indulging in it. Don’t fall victim to this classic mindfuck. Don’t let the boulder start inching back down the hill. Instead, love it. Love every second of it. Like you’d love a sunset, knowing it’s beauty will slowly fade over the horizon and disappear forever, leaving you to pine for the next one. The important thing is to accept that it was a moment. That’s all. And that it is gone. What happens next has nothing to do with it. The very second the sun disappears, and the darkness replaces the light, is an opportunity. A chance to start anew. That’s what the grind is all about. Whether you’re training for a marathon, starting a business or writing the next great novel, accept that you are going to slip. That your best laid plans will go awry and you will be faced with a critical decision: do I let apathy win? And in doing so, start the slow and painful journey backwards. Not to the bottom of the hill, where you began the journey, but to a much darker place. A place called regret, where the pain of letting go of a goal dwarfs the pain of not starting at all. Don’t visit this place. You don’t need to. All too often we condition ourselves to believe that each day must be bigger and better, or at least equal to the previous day’s progress. If you ran 5 miles yesterday, anything less than 6 won’t do. If you posted to your blog everyday for the last month, missing a post means you’re following is lost. If you’ve been a religious vegan for the past year, but fall to temptation over the holidays, your body is polluted. Bullshit. You need do nothing more than seize back the moment—even if it’s symbolic. Lace up your running shoes and go for a five minute walk. Send a tweet instead of posting a soliloquy. Eat an apple. That’s it. The smallest act can stop the most massive boulder long enough to mount the next ascent. Don’t overthink it Sometimes you don’t need a why. Some greater purpose. More often than not, you simply need to take action. An object in motion will stay in motion. An object at rest will stay at rest. Unless acted upon by a force of equal or greater magnitude. The law of inertia. Immutable. 

Don't let a missed workout destroy your mission.

Don't let a missed workout destroy your mission.

Mind, Body & Business

Mind, Body & Business